Dedicated to my wonderful husband - Cesar Pena
This year on September 28, him and I will be married for a full 2 years. What a wonderful, shaky, challenging, joyful, exciting year and a half it's been so far... He is the complete opposite of me. I'm way too loud to be honest, I am feisty and have a "strong character" as he always says when I am being ME. "Tu nada mas eres chiquita" he says in Spanish, meaning I am only small, and always hinting I have a big/strong character. I always laugh because he is right. He is quiet, reserved, very soft-spoken and oh so polite (rest assured, I am the opposite, except I can be polite too).
If you take a look at my husband, what do you see? Let me tell you what I see immediately... A very un-groomed dude... cause lets face it, we tend to pick on the not-so-nice appearances of a person before even trying to SEE the good in that person.
This year on September 28, him and I will be married for a full 2 years. What a wonderful, shaky, challenging, joyful, exciting year and a half it's been so far... He is the complete opposite of me. I'm way too loud to be honest, I am feisty and have a "strong character" as he always says when I am being ME. "Tu nada mas eres chiquita" he says in Spanish, meaning I am only small, and always hinting I have a big/strong character. I always laugh because he is right. He is quiet, reserved, very soft-spoken and oh so polite (rest assured, I am the opposite, except I can be polite too).
If you take a look at my husband, what do you see? Let me tell you what I see immediately... A very un-groomed dude... cause lets face it, we tend to pick on the not-so-nice appearances of a person before even trying to SEE the good in that person.
Too often, we judge people by their outer appearance first, failing to see the beauty, value and even the humility in their hearts and the person they truly are...
I didn't meet my husband with this much facial hair. When I met him almost 4 years ago this coming July, he had what I have a habit of calling a "clean face"...
After we got married, he started to let his beard grow and forget it, that was the end of me, that was above and beyond devastating for me (I can be a bit selfish, not going to lie). I had a hard time accepting his beard the way HE wanted to have it.
We had countless arguments over his beard, it was starting to get quite pathetic, I mean who argues over a beard!? But you see, the real issue with me was that I wasn't getting my way. My husband doesn't let me get away with what I want, and surprisingly, through him being like that was that God taught me to let go of the control issues I once had.
But moving on, I remember him once telling me "learn to love me through my beard". I am a VERY dramatic woman (just give me my Oscar now, thanks!), so my reaction when he said that, drove me nuts, I cried as I replayed his words in my head... Hmmph - "learn to love me through my beard" he says... "Oh please, how about let me count the ways I have loved you" is what I really felt and expressed to him.
It took me quite some time to understand that love does not rest or stop at the outer appearance, it is meant to reach the heart...
We laughed together as I once joked and told him "at least you don't have facial hair on your heart" (I may have been the only to laugh at that joke) but anyway, I say all this to say that I love this man with every bone in my body and with all the love in my heart that I posses.
Under all that outer appearance, flesh and facial hair lies a beautiful, humble and servant, loving heart and an amazing man of God, an amazing father to our daughter and an amazing step father to my boys and I wouldn't change or trade him for anything or anyone in the world.
It was his smile and his kind eyes that stole my heart almost 4 years ago and it's his tender love that continues to steal my heart.
Let's not be so quick to judge a person at a first glance. Take the time to actually know that person...
"Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are." - Pinterest quote